@alter_unicorn It would be fun to just collect everyone's funny stories! 😊
Also I like using humor to kinda pat everyone on the shoulder, like, "Yeah we see each other, being neurodivergent isn't easy, but we're all in this together, and we can laugh at this stuff."
@hollie @actuallyadhd Oh I am sooo seen. Sadly, um, I may have such birthday cards and small gifts scattered around my home. I think in terms of “Next year, I promise, I will send it!”
D) Throw it away after realising it's been too long, and now it's better she doesn't know it exists.
@hollie @actuallyadhd C) put the card in my work bag and carry it around with me for the next 2 weeks, and set multiple calendar reminders in my phone to remind myself to put it in the mailbox, on consecutive days so that if I forget the first day I'll be reminded again the next day... etc.
I've played this game enough times to learn strategies
@fraggle @actuallyadhd I’ve lost mail in my bag too, you aren’t alone! :)
@hollie
B, except I'd probably try to save it for 6 months to catch the next birthday.
I've become far more realistic about what I'm likely to do, so I almost never attempt to do anything by snailmail unless I'm actually standing in a post office where I can purchase and use all the necessary tools. There is just WAY too much executive functioning that's necessary for that kind of thing to work. I avoid nearly all sorts of paper, since it's just waiting to be lost.
@EllenInEdmonton Yeah, I love paper so I do a lot with it, but it really does take an effort of focus to make that work and it totally makes sense to just choose not to! :)
@hollie B.
and I would be glad to help with the ADHD screening test.
it's a brilliant idea. @actuallyadhd
@alter_unicorn It would be fun to just collect everyone's funny stories! 😊
Also I like using humor to kinda pat everyone on the shoulder, like, "Yeah we see each other, being neurodivergent isn't easy, but we're all in this together, and we can laugh at this stuff."
@hollie it can raise awareness. raisind awareness has become my main battle. normalize neurodiversity everywhere! @actuallyadhd
@hollie @actuallyadhd Didn't even need the multiple choice to know the answer to this one. I have a birthday card for my grandmother that I bought in late 2020 to mail to her for her birthday in February 2021. I never mailed it to her.
She died in January 2024, so I also never will. The card remains in the drawer, stamped and addressed.
@hollie @actuallyadhd love the stamp - Keith Haring was in Melbourne for a while in the 80s and did some street art which has been preserved ...
@mherbert Oh I love that! 😁 Keith Haring is so great!
@hollie @actuallyadhd I'm probably 80% of the time B and 20% A. I have a friend with ADHD and it is now a running joke that we may get one another's cards anywhere from on time to nearly a year late. 😆
Actually, that reminds me... I have a card for her (bday was in January)... now where did I put it -- she's coming over today!
@SarahFrumento Ah, yay! Reminder! 😆
Yeah it's wonderful when you can have friends who get it, and don't judge, and you can laugh about it together.
@hollie @actuallyadhd Update: my friend just left ... sans birthday card
@SarahFrumento <empathetic high five>
@MichaelTBacon HA! The funny thing is that I actually DO remember to this most of the time? Like maybe 75% of the time, which is way higher than it was years ago. I think it has a lot to do with environment - I've never lived close to a post office before, and now I do, and suddenly I can actually get this one chore done with very little friction!
@hollie @MichaelTBacon
I mean, I do manage to successfully return things most of the time, but that's why I keep* a giant stockpile of boxes and filler in my basement. And whenever I get the email with a return label immediately goes to the printer to have a physical item to remind me to deal with it.
*hoard is the word others might use...
@actuallyadhd
@IrrationalMethod @MichaelTBacon @actuallyadhd I have a box hoard too. Mine is in the attic. :)
My response is basically to go through:
1. Is there ANY chance I'll actually use it?
2. Is there any chance someone I know might want it?
3. No really, if I like went to this one thing and did this other thing I might want it. Or maybe two of them. You never know.
4. How much did it cost me? How long will it take to return it? Is there anything else I can do in that time that will earn/save the same amount as returning it will get me?
5. Okay no really, can I possibly use it some way?
6. Can it be turned into something else?
7. Ooh, maybe it's too late to return it! Maybe it's beyond my control!
8. I really don't want it? Really?
9. OKAY FINE I'LL PRINT THE THING AND TAKE IT DOWN TO THE SHIPPING PLACE AND HAND IT TO THEM AND I'LL BE MAD THE WHOLE TIME.
@MichaelTBacon @IrrationalMethod It’s a neurodivergent flow chart! :)
Nice! Yes, my spouse has taught me a lot about "mise en place" when it comes to tasks. It's not terribly easy for ADHD people to do themselves, but it is a strategy for staying ahead of it.
@hollie @actuallyadhd definitely and repeatedly B
